Suffer In Silence

don't suffer alone….

Another characteristic of men in this situation is the tendency to disconnect from his own domestic problems. A battered husband will often spend more and more time at work, or take up a hobby outside of the home. In order […]

Denial

Denial is saying something hasn’t happened or pretending the situation isn’t as bad as it really is. It allows victims to ignore painful aspects of reality. It allows abusers to continue abusing. It is a coping mechanism, for victims, allowing […]

When many of us hear the words “domestic violence,” we automatically assume the victim would be a female and the attacker would be a male. After all, men are traditionally viewed as the more aggressive of the two sexes, and […]

Working Through Battered Men’s Syndrome

Many battered men, having been systematically abused by their partners, perceive that there is no way out of their relationship. They fear that if they leave their children behind… she may abuse them. Abused men with Battered Men’s Syndrome feel […]

Suppression of Pain

  “When a young boy is hit by another boy on the playground he can do three things. 1. Hit back. ( Be seen as aggressive. ) 2. Proclaim ” That didn’t hurt! ” ( Be seen as strong. ) […]

Type of response women between women and men

Hit back 24.4% 15% Cried 54.6% 5.8% Yelled or cursed him/her 42.6% 28.7% Ran to another room 8.6% 13.9% Called a friend/relative 11.4% 2.2% Called the police 8.5% 0.9% Ran out of the house 14% 18% Other 7.3% 32.2% When […]

Male Socialization

  Men are to be self-sufficient. This means they do not need to be helped by others, if they are men. Men are to be strong. This means they can not express physical and emotional pain, sadness or fear, if […]

there is a stigma attached to being a male victim of spousal abuse that even permeates our field. I had a discussion with a male professor at one university [in a family department] that refused to believe that a woman […]

Why battered men don’t leave or remain silent

  Shame: What will my friends, family, colleagues and neighbors think? What will people think if they knew I let a woman beat up on me? It’s a private matter – it belongs in the family. If I say anything, […]

Why do we stay?

Understanding why men stay in abusive relationships or remain silent… Do any of these questions sound familiar? “Why don’t you leave if it’s that bad?” or “How can you let this happen?” or “If I was you I wouldn’t put […]