there is a stigma attached to being a male victim of spousal abuse that even permeates our field. I had a discussion with a male professor at one university [in a family department] that refused to believe that a woman could be abusive. Try talking as a male victim to others that you are a victim of this kind of behavior and you will get such reactions as this, or reactions that imply: “you wimp”, or “why don’t you take it like a man”, or “you must be a controlling man or she wouldn’t do that”, or “you must be abusive too”.